One of the graces of God upon the servant is to endow him with the ability to know himself and the ability to put it in the appropriate position, since man’s ignorance of himself and his lack of knowledge of his abilities makes him evaluate himself wrongly.
Feeling bad about oneself has a great effect in destroying the positives that a person possesses. The feelings and feelings that we have about ourselves are what make us the strong and distinct personality or make us passive and inactive; As our giving and our production is affected negatively and positively by our self-esteem, the more positive feelings you have about yourself, the more your self-confidence increases, and the more negative feelings you have about yourself, the less your self-confidence decreases.
What does self-esteem mean?
Self-esteem refers to the amount of the image in which a person looks at himself, is it high or low. Self-esteem is very important in that it is the gateway to all types of success, so no matter how a person learns the methods of success and self-development, if his self-esteem and evaluation of it is wrong and weak, he will not succeed in adopting any of these methods of success, because he sees himself as incapable and unworthy of this success.
Characteristics of low self-esteem:
Studies indicate that about 95% of people complain or underestimate their self-worth and thus they pay the price practically in every field in which they work. Their capabilities and energies. This may lead to depression and anxiety, and many cases of depression and suicide have to do with self-contempt. James Patel (1980 AD) was one of the first to determine the strength of the link between depression and self-contempt. He discovered that when depression increased; The self-esteem decreases, and vice versa, and that is why treatment for depression is to develop individual skills in raising the level of self-esteem and maintaining their moods.
There are signs that appear on a person with low self-esteem, including:
2- Fear of speaking in public
3- Attempting to please oneself, to avoid criticism.
And many other signs, and self-esteem and self-confidence should not be confused, self-confidence is the result of self-esteem, and therefore whoever does not have self-esteem does not have self-confidence as well. Low self-esteem grows because of frequent escape from facing our problems.
The theory of self-esteem:
One of the theories related to self-esteem, which is one of the basics of need and motivation. The American psychologist Abraham Maslow mentioned self-esteem as a category of needs.
Hierarchy of needs, or Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, is a psychological theory developed by the scientist Abraham Maslow. This theory discusses the arrangement of human needs.
The Maslow pyramid consists of:
1- Physiological needs.
2- The need for security.
3- The need for love and “social” affiliation.
4- The need for self-esteem.
5- The need for self-realization.
Physiological needs: These are the needs necessary to maintain an individual.
1- The need to breathe.
2- The need for food.
3- The need for water.
4- The need to control the balance.
5- The need for sex.
6- The need to sleep.
Needs for safety:
1- Physical safety from violence and abuse.
2- Job security.
3- Security of revenues and resources.
4- Family security.
5- Health security.
Needs of love and belonging:
2- Family relations.
3- Make friends.
Human beings in general feel a need for affiliation and acceptance, whether to a large social group (such as clubs, religious groups, professional organizations, sports teams, or small social connections (such as family, intimate partners, teachers, and close colleagues), and the need for love (sexual and non-sexual) from others, In the absence of these elements, many people become vulnerable to anxiety, social isolation, and depression.
Needs for self-esteem:
Here, emphasis is placed on the individual’s needs to achieve a prominent social position, a sense of respect by others, and a sense of confidence and power.
The need for self-realization:
In it, the individual tries to achieve himself by maximizing the use of his current and potential abilities and skills to achieve the largest possible number of achievements.
The most prominent features of people with a high sense of self-esteem:
1- Calm and tranquility.
2- Enthusiasm and determination.
3- Honesty and expressiveness.
4- Positivity and optimism.
6- Social relations and cooperation.
8- He does not feel guilty.
9 – He does not think about failure, but tries to make a ladder for success from his experiences.
10- He remembers his successes and does not focus only on his failures.
11- Modifies his lifestyle.
13- Has the ability to express automatically.
14- He is not disturbed by the success or happiness of others.
15- They often stand out in the leadership role.
16- They have the ability to self-repair.
17- They welcome constructive criticism and helpful advice.
Treating low self-esteem:
1- Medicinal treatment: Treatment of this condition by a psychiatrist.
2- Psychotherapy: Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), which is based on helping the patient to identify his disturbing thoughts accurately and learn ways to resist them and prevent response to them, avoidant behavior and gradually confronting related situations.