When you find that the child affects silence in a social environment such as the school, for example, this prompts you to wonder about the reason for this silence, and why does the child choose him in these situations that require him to speak ?! This condition is called “selective silence”, as it is one of the psychological problems that the child experiences in an environment outside his home or in social situations without others,
It may also be included as a form of social phobia, as silence here is the choice of the child and not because of an imbalance in his senses or as a result of a psychological disorder.
When do we say that silence is optional?
It is a mistake to rush to judge the child that he suffers from voluntary silence in his first days of school, and to make you think that the difference in the school environment from the home has an effect on the child, but when his silence exceeds the period of one month, it is necessary to intervene by teachers and parents while excluding other reasons such as There is a defect in his hearing or speech, and the absence of any psychological disorders, such as autism and distraction, and there is no doubt that observing the child at home and outside helps to determine the situation more accurately, the child is introverted and related to his parents, and he may not speak or express himself as well as his voice is Lower.
What are its causes?
1- Severe anxiety and internal conflict that the child suffers from, and anxiety may be due to hereditary factors that he acquired from one of his parents.
2- The tension in the family relationship, the separation of the child from his parents, or the death of one of them.
3- The child was exposed to psychological trauma or humiliation and mockery in his early years in a social situation.
4- Pressure on the child by the parents in silence and not speaking in front of strangers.
5- Low self-confidence and the inability to cope with others.
6- Extreme shyness and lack of independence of the child himself.
What are its results?
Negatively affects his educational level, weakening his academic achievement, which causes him to be delayed for his colleagues.
It negatively affects the child’s future if he does not learn social skills, such as talking about himself and talking with others.
When the child’s treatment is delayed, this affects his psychological state and treatment is more difficult.
Increased introversion and shyness in him, especially if there is no awareness around him of the problem he suffers.
How is it treated?
The optional treatment of silence is either medicinal or psychological, and the best medicine for it is serotonin rejection inhibitors, as for psychological treatment, it is through studying the case with the help of the psychologist and measuring his mental abilities, and awareness must be raised by teachers and parents as the cause of silence may be problems and family disputes, Behavioral therapy is designed to reinforce desirable behaviors and eliminate undesirable behaviors, and it is also important to help the child step by step to overcome his fears and to positive reinforcement without exaggeration and to encourage the child to communicate using voice messages or video recording, as well as gradual treatment and not rushing the result in speech, such as Moving the lips, answering the phone, and using cognitive behavioral therapy helps with how to think about himself and others and how they perceive these matters and turn his fears into positive thoughts, and also training the child to relax helps reduce his anxiety, and specialists have indicated the importance of playing as a cognitive therapy. As it contributes to increasing communication between the educator and the child and relieving pressure on him, and it is better to intervene for treatment early so that dealing with him is a Easy.
The importance of awareness of removing the problem of voluntary silence for the child by the family and the teacher contributes to reducing the risk and remedy it. The role of the teacher is not limited to teaching only, but the child must be observed when feeling the problem, informing his family about this and cooperating with them to solve the problem, and it is also necessary to motivate the child to verbal communication and give The opportunity to participate, and the child should not be pressed to speak in front of people or at home in order not to be the focus of attention and fear increases and the problem grows. Rather, he must be given sufficient time to speak and reinforce his successful steps and praise him with words of encouragement and strengthen his self-confidence. The appropriate environment must be provided for him, whether at home or school. It helps him get better better.